Amanda had 18 months off after her first baby was born in 2013. But on the eve of her return to work, she found out she was seven weeks pregnant.
I found out the day before and had absolutely no idea I was so far along,” she says. “I was terrified to tell my boss because I knew that I would be leaving again in six months’ time.”
With her confidence already low, Amanda immediately felt anxious. “It’s hard enough thinking about if you will be able to log on to your computer or if you will remember policies,” she says. “And then add to that that you need to tell your manager you’re pregnant. All I remember thinking is that they will be annoyed with me.”
They weren’t. Amanda’s manager was incredibly supportive, and “everything has worked out,” she says. But others they aren’t as lucky.
“There was another woman in my office who had exactly the same thing happen to her, but she was five months pregnant,” says Amanda. “When she finally found out she was terrified to tell her boss because she knew she would have to leave in two months.
“I even have a friend who honestly thought they would lose their job. I think most people are terrified to tell their manager as they think they will be annoyed.”
A few years later, Amanda has returned to work after another 18 months off and, “I’m really happy to be back,” she says.
“I think of work as my ‘me time’. I walk to the train listening to music, grab my favourite coffee and enjoy the slower pace,” she says. “Being a mum is full on and so I try to make the most of my work days.”
All working mamas need quality time to themselves. Amanda recharges her batteries with a session at the gym, the odd bit of shopping, a mani pedi or catch up with a friend.
“I love work. I know you don’t hear that a lot, but I have the right balance for me and three days in the office suits me perfectly,” she says. “Who doesn’t love three days with no yelling at kids or telling them ten times to put on their socks?”
Amanda has two children (Henry, two, and Zoe, four.) She does not wish to disclose her role or company.