How possible is it to have it all? More importantly how achievable is it to have it all? I have a saying in my house which goes a little something like this; “home, work; me”, or is it “work, home, me” or is it “me, work, home”?
Ahhh screw it. It’s not something you can really do is it?! Plan your balance? Maybe we should just get realistic.
I mean really with six kids at home and a husband and full time working hours which are all done from my home office, it can be really hard to plan everything all the time. But I definitely try.
What if the kids get sick? What if the husband gets called to work different hours? What if my deadlines get moved up?
Life is unpredictable. It’s chaotic. But I also like to make sure I’m super productive with the time I do have just in case. But I have to say for me it’s all about perspective.
We have our basic schedule. It’s what I like to call a flexischedule. It can be moved around if needed. I can get friends and family to help with it if I need. It’s consistently there but I can always consistently achieve it by flipping things around. The schedule includes exercise, cleaning the house, meal preparation, work and fun
A typical day for us would look like this;
6 AM Husband’s off to work
6:30 AM Get the kids ready for school/ breakfast/ tidy house.
8:30 AM School drop
9:30 AM Gym (kids go to crèche at gym)
10:30 AM Home, work from home, kids play
12:30 PM Lunch
1:00 PM Kids nap or rest. I work.
2:30 PM Prepare dinner
3:00 PM Pick kids up from school
3:30 PM Finish dinner/ tidy house/ kids shower bath
5:30 PM Dad’s home/ dinner family time
7 PM Kids to bed
7 PM Gym/exercise or husband wife time; sort bills budgets.
9:30/10:30 PM Bed
I have two child free days a week. I catch up on washing and other odd jobs for half the day and work the other half. On weekends my husband works mornings. I deep clean the house take the kids on park adventures and we spend family time in the afternoons.
So we have a kind of flow. But sometimes, it’s all not possible. Sometimes my children will get sick and I need to cuddle them more. Sometimes I’ll get sick and I just can’t do it all. I think it’s important to remember that this is everyone. It happens to everyone. You’re not letting people down. You’re not the only one.
And when you’re in the trenches of a sick family or falling behind on work, I think it’s important to stay in touch with your employers; most are so understanding. It’s important to take a deep breath and realise it’s temporary and one day before you know it you’ll be back to your schedule, smashing goals and kicking butt.
Write a list of everything you would like to do in a week and schedule it around your hours. Take control of your time, it’s important to remember to use every hour to its fullest potential.
But sometimes it won’t be possible, and that’s okay too. Never feel bad asking for help. By most importantly remember to put it into perspective.
Written by Krechelle Carter. Mum of six children six and under, freelance writer for publications such as Kidspot and Woman’s Day. Blogger and creator of the Eight at home community. Strong believer in following your dreams and balancing it all….. most of the time. Find her @eightathome on Instagram or Facebook.